Valentines Day
The Beauty of celebrating LOVE….
We all deal with some form of stress every day. Our bodies are amazing adopters to all sorts of environments and situations. Bodies thrive to adapt and keep balance and to stay healthy.
The same goes for plants. All Plants contain adaptogenic or tonic compounds due to a great deal of stress they have to deal with. For that reason herbs and tonics are so potent for us and support us to balance our bodies.
So you are eating well and supporting your body and how is your relationship with yourself ?
What is the highest form of Love ? Yes, Self Love. Finding yourself up in arms, “oh no, I cannot be selfish.” Loving yourself has nothing to do with being selfish: it means YOU are taking care of yourself, making sure your needs are meet etc etc.
Yes it is possible even with kids and husbands and wives and friends. Oh! You mean life ? YES!
Magic unfolds when you start to love yourself. When you dont have love for yourself you can’t really have it for other people. All Relationships start with you. Maybe this Valentines you can make it really about validating ALL of YOU.
What would this look like ? It could be something simple as see below:
Taking time for yourself….
1. When you start it might feel uncomfortable.
2. You can do it, the uncomfortableness will subside.
3. You can set a timer, start with 5 minutes.
4. If you have kids negotiate time, have your spouse help you and get 5 minutes, yes you can lock yourself
in the bathroom and yes you can have fun with it.
5. Find things about yourself to validate yourself and bathe in it, to start with you can do physical things like
your hair or skin or eyes etc. and
6. Beyond your body, your creativity, being an amazing organizer, maybe you did something great etc.
You get the idea. If you think you don’t have any, find one thing you really love or like about yourself. Bathe in that. Feel how amazing you are in your body, let if wash over you, Outside validations are nice, when you focus on those, or need them, you become dependent. When those validations are not coming what happens within you ? Do you fumble and crumble ? Do you invalidate yourself ? Do you feel unworthy ? The list goes on and on. When you know your own worth and can see your own light – that is love. No matter what happens around you, when you love yourself, it spills into your life.
You have more energy, can set boundaries in a fun way and feel great about it.
The more you look outside for solutions or validation, the lonelier it becomes. Once the journey goes inward and you learn how to be your own parent and allow yourself to guide yourself, have temper tantrums (we all have them this is when our 3 or 5 year old comes out – because xyz….)
and you can hug yourself or give yourself what ever you need at that moment, and be there and its all ok cause you are the one who is steering the ship. Guess what? You are loving yourself to the brim! Thats when the magic starts to unfold and yes you can go for treasure hunts. And yes this also means you know what YOU need … how about you. Do you know what you need ? That does not involve another human being to do your bidding etc. ??? Now thats a loving way to start…. Happy Valentines Day and hey YES, let yourself be celebrated by this amazing day. Thank you Valentine!
p.s. I love me !